When do you know that you are in love? If I had even just a nickle for everytime I was asked that one simple question I swear I'd be on a beach in Fiji throwing back fruity drinks with swivel sticks and bathing in my own money. I know it seems like a question that should have a difinitive answer but truthfully it just may possibly be the most difficult question to answer of all time.
The truth of the matter is love is a funny thing and at different stages of our lives it can hit us in a buffet of different ways. The word love has a specific meaning to almost everyone but the way we judge the word love isn't always as black and white as we'd like to believe it is.
For example: The head over heals teenager at the peak of his/her life just recently being introduced to the concept of love sees is far more clearly and definitively then say the conciencious 30 year old who's just finding his/her self and wants to make the right choices about love. For the teenager love is holding hands and pitter patting hearts and roses and flowers and sweetness and gardens. Its so easy to love when your young. You have little in the way of expectations and the slightest notice from the lover you are seeking can easily ignite a frensy of explosive exciting emotions. Love is so innocent at this age and to the beholder ( young and nieve) everything feels like love.
For the 30 year old love is still blissful but is slightly more reserved and definately comes with more expectations. the 30 year old is not only concentrating on bliss but worries about values, emotions, living arrangements, family, children and about a million other factors when falling in love. It is not as cut and dry as the teenage love and more then likely the 30 year old has felt what appeared to be love ( and then loss) many times before and so it becomes different. now.
No matter what age you are however, love will feel like happiness and every day feels like your birthday in the beginning. The new fresh love is the best kind. When even a simple walk in the park feels like you're riding on clouds and the larks and nightengales are singing only for you and your partner. This however fades after time unfortunately and what's left after that is usually how one can measure if it truly is love. Love is being comfortable. Love is being kind. Love is understanding, Love is never complicated its just love. You should never have to work annoyingly hard at love. ( although that is'nt to say there won't be difficult times ahead) Love means compromising even though you may not want to. It means taking chances for someone that you would seldom take for anyone else and trusting like you've never trusted before. Its letting your guard down and just allowing the "true you" to shine through. Its being able to say "I'm sorry" and mean it, even if you haven't done anything wrong.
How do you know when it is real love...I truly believe you can't put it into words. It's what you feel inside and it lasts beyond a lifetime.
Monday, May 23, 2011
Real Housewives of the OC
The Bitches of the OC were in rare form last evening. Sunday nights have become a guilty pleasure after 10PM. Last night was Alexis's debut of her Alexis Couture dress line. To say it mildly her line was a bit of a disappointment. Outside of maybe one or two decent frocks the remainder of the line lacked creativity, definitely lacked versatility and came across more as a stripper line then a couture one. Meanwhile the main attraction of her dress premier was the Gretchen's caddy display of doubt when the news broke that "icky Vikki" was in the hospital with anal hemorrhaging.
Gretchen claimed Vikki was having stomach and apparent rectal issues for months prior to her hospital trip and wondered why today ( the debut of Alexis Couture ) of all days at "2pm" she would choose to now "do something about it." Whether or not Vikki was being mellow dramatic to gain the attention of her fellow housewives or not the real issues with Vikki were far more entertaining then her hospital visit. Vikki used the evening to confess that her and her hubby were living separate lives and lacked any intimacy for the passed 2 years. "I need to be touched" she exclaimed with tear welling up in her eyes. Apparently her and her hubby have been playing nice in front of others for years and she was ready to put that issue to bed(so to speak).
Jeana made a small but needed cameo to come to Simon's defence and try to convince his ex to drop the police charges against him. She is still vowing his actions need to be reprimanded but hurts badly for him and just wants him to move on with his life and be happy. Um Yeah and we all believe that.
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| Alexis models her new dress line "Alexis Cotour" |
All in all the show left a little to be desired last evening. But have no fear no doubt the future episodes will be packed with kitty cat fights and buffets of long awaited brawls with the girls of the OC. We'll still tune in next week to watch the drama unfold, if not for anything else but to laugh it up at (good little catholic girl) Alexis who still has no idea she named her new dress line after a real housewife/ porn star. Oh yeah that never gets old.
Sunday, May 22, 2011
5 Easy Ways to Get Him to Notice YOU
Why is it that when a girl is interested in a guy she suddenly starts to make rookie mistakes all over again? Women are understandably creatures of habit but honey....if it didn't work the first ten times chances are it isn't going to work this time either! Really, men are not all that complex but for some unknown reason when our hearts start to pitter pat our game tends to go flat. Wake up ladies its not rocket science. How many times does a man that you are completely NOT interested in suddenly become very interested in you? It happens all the time because around men you are not interested in you are confident, sassy, sexy and desirable.
So why do so many women become the exact opposite of that when they are around men they are interested in? Honestly I have no answer for you there but what I can tell you is 5 very easy ways to get him to notice and adore you!
1. Do NOT be timid and shy around him!!!
Men are not as sociable as we are. The last thing they want to do is to carry on a conversation with themselves. Be your lovable social self when you are talking to him. Do not think that just because you like him means that you have to wait for him to come talk to you. Go up to him say hello and take it from there. There are about a million things you can talk to him about you just have to do a little homework. Find out what he likes and then do a little research on it. For example if he plays basketball with his buddies one or two nights a week use that as your opening. "Hey I heard you talking about your game the other night. How did you do? Did you guys win? My brother is a big basket ball nut unfortunately for him he's not as good as he'd like to be." (ha ha...you both laugh) ..Now you have a dialect started. You do not have to ask him for his hand in marriage just to talk to him. Now he's noticed you and you didnt wait for him to come to you.
2. Compliment Him
There is nothing more exciting to a man then a woman who actually notices him. Find something that you like about him that day ( preferably shoes, wardrobe, hair) and tell him he looks good. Don't go overboard and make a fool of yourself. You do not want to come on to strong but a simple" hey I like that shirt on you..Its the perfect color for you" Works wonders... you will make him feel good and trust me he will be thinking about you and that compliment all day long.
3. make Eye Contact
At some point during the day let him catch you checking him out. This takes a little finess, after all you dont want to have a blatent staring contest with the man ( thats just creepy). However a little glare, a quick smile then look away. Its a simple tactic but it will get him to notice that you have noticed him. Try not to do this more then twice during the day after all overkill can make you seem like a stalker and we don't want that.
4. Chum it up with your co workers ( or classmates)
Depending on the setting use the people around you to get him to notice you. Have a laugh or two with the guy or girl that sits by him. Again this takes a touch of finess. Over kill can make you look silly. Strike up a conversation with your co workers and let him see just how sassy and interesting you are. If you share a joke with others and they find you fun and intriguing then he just might as well. Let him check you out through someone elses eyes. He will wonder what the fuss is all about and be asking about you in no time.
5. Dress to Impress
Don't just wear the same old same old daily. Fix your hair a little different and slap on a little lipstick. Buy a new outfit that shows off all of your beautiful attributes. Becareful not to dress to provocotively, after all you do not want to attract him for all the wrong reasons. However wear an outfit that makes you look like you, only better. Focus on a figure flattering style, a bright fresh color, ad super cute pumps, and a teeny wiggle in your giddy-up and you are bound to catch a glimps of him checking you out!
So why do so many women become the exact opposite of that when they are around men they are interested in? Honestly I have no answer for you there but what I can tell you is 5 very easy ways to get him to notice and adore you!
1. Do NOT be timid and shy around him!!!
Men are not as sociable as we are. The last thing they want to do is to carry on a conversation with themselves. Be your lovable social self when you are talking to him. Do not think that just because you like him means that you have to wait for him to come talk to you. Go up to him say hello and take it from there. There are about a million things you can talk to him about you just have to do a little homework. Find out what he likes and then do a little research on it. For example if he plays basketball with his buddies one or two nights a week use that as your opening. "Hey I heard you talking about your game the other night. How did you do? Did you guys win? My brother is a big basket ball nut unfortunately for him he's not as good as he'd like to be." (ha ha...you both laugh) ..Now you have a dialect started. You do not have to ask him for his hand in marriage just to talk to him. Now he's noticed you and you didnt wait for him to come to you.
2. Compliment Him
There is nothing more exciting to a man then a woman who actually notices him. Find something that you like about him that day ( preferably shoes, wardrobe, hair) and tell him he looks good. Don't go overboard and make a fool of yourself. You do not want to come on to strong but a simple" hey I like that shirt on you..Its the perfect color for you" Works wonders... you will make him feel good and trust me he will be thinking about you and that compliment all day long.
3. make Eye Contact
At some point during the day let him catch you checking him out. This takes a little finess, after all you dont want to have a blatent staring contest with the man ( thats just creepy). However a little glare, a quick smile then look away. Its a simple tactic but it will get him to notice that you have noticed him. Try not to do this more then twice during the day after all overkill can make you seem like a stalker and we don't want that.
4. Chum it up with your co workers ( or classmates)
Depending on the setting use the people around you to get him to notice you. Have a laugh or two with the guy or girl that sits by him. Again this takes a touch of finess. Over kill can make you look silly. Strike up a conversation with your co workers and let him see just how sassy and interesting you are. If you share a joke with others and they find you fun and intriguing then he just might as well. Let him check you out through someone elses eyes. He will wonder what the fuss is all about and be asking about you in no time.
5. Dress to Impress
Don't just wear the same old same old daily. Fix your hair a little different and slap on a little lipstick. Buy a new outfit that shows off all of your beautiful attributes. Becareful not to dress to provocotively, after all you do not want to attract him for all the wrong reasons. However wear an outfit that makes you look like you, only better. Focus on a figure flattering style, a bright fresh color, ad super cute pumps, and a teeny wiggle in your giddy-up and you are bound to catch a glimps of him checking you out!
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