Measure a Mens Behavior/ How He Treats His Mother

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Justin Timberlake with
his mom!

 Contrary to popular belief men are not all bad. Although it is easy to believe this fine fable. It's even easier to believe if you have just been through a bad break up or had your heart hurt by an insensitive malicious or mean man. When you are in your adolescences it is easy to look at the bad behavior of the boys your age and believe they will never grow up. They typically tease and taunt and though it may seem immature believe it or not this is typical behavior for teens at this age. Whether it seems true or not boys do eventually grow up and change however it may take some time before the teasing and taunting come anywhere close to an end.


Mama with her two beautiful boys
Is your man a "mamas boy"

 As boys become closer to the age of dating its important to remember that women ( or rather girls) will most likely mature much more rapidly then boys will. Girls in their teens typically try dating boys before they are necessarily ready. It might make boys slightly uncomfortable knowing that a girl he knows has feelings for him and truthfully he doesn't necessarily know how to act towards her. Hence, causing him to react immaturely and more often then not he has a tendency to turn her off. As he matures he begins to learn lessons on life and love from  his older brothers, his parents, his friends and eventually his bad behavior towards the opposite sex will discontinue. ( This takes longer for some then others)
As puberty comes to a close, time takes its tole and teens turn into men. They learn to act more appropriately and honorable towards a women. (some however never grow out of immaturity) Most men eventually learn how to love and respect a woman. The question remains though, How do you choose a man who is mature, respectful and will treat you the right way?
 Most men learn how to treat a woman by watching their parents as they grow up. If you truthfully want to measure how a man will treat you in time, watch how he treats his mother. If he treats his mother with dignity, love and respect, then grab a hold to him as quickly as possible. Chances are he will treat you with the same respect and love he treats her with. On the other hand if he has bad blow ups and cursing wars with Mama then run for the hills ladies hes most likely not the Casanova you thought he was. This rule of thumb certainly does NOT apply to all men. There are plenty of good guys who have been the product of failed family life. In the same respect some men who treat their mamas like royalty turn out to be big babies. For the most part though the rule does apply.

When you're looking for a "good man" stand back a bit and watch how he works. See if he puts his family (especially his mother) on a pedestal. Watch his behavior around his sister and/or his gal pals. If

 he tends to treat them truly

well then you can probably bet he will treat you even better. Try to remember that no man is perfect. They have flaws just as we all do. A terrific trick to getting a man to truly treat you right is to truly try to treat him that terrific way you'd like to be treated. Good Luck and let me know how it works out! 1goodadviceguru@gmail.com

ADVICE FOR JENN

Jenn is a great friend of mine who has a husband who is a control freak. Jenn is the epitome of lovely , intelligent, and sweet as chocolate pie. She is the kind of person who goes out of her way to help a friend and goes even further to please her family.
While being a mother and wife some may thing she sits at home and eats bon bons all day living off her husbands money. This couldn't be further from the truth. She spends countless hours cleaning and organizing the house so when her husband comes home there's not a crumb on the floor nor a speck of dust on the furniture. She browses cookbooks and Internet cooking sites daily to find practically perfect dishes to prepare for dinner and regularly prepares a decadent dessert with her extra extraordinary meals to delight her husbands unique and well fed taste buds. Ladies, I do not lie when I say this woman puts Donna Reed to shame and makes Mrs Brady look like the Octo mom.
That being said, the unfortunate part is that her husband seems unfazed and surprisingly unimpressed with her continuous efforts to please him. He rarely compliments her creative cooking attempts and often boasts fun at them leaving her feeling embarrassed and utterly unappreciated. Yet even though she never seems to get the raving reaction she's so yearning  for she continues cooking and cleaning hoping next time he will give her the love affection and proper praise she so clearly deserves.

My humble advice to you my dearest friend is to please tell this man exactly how you feel. I would never give the advice to anyone to walk out of a marriage based solely on the fact that one partner is under appreciated. Make no mistake there is no abuse going on here and Jenn's husband does provide plentifully for himself and his beautiful family. However is it really that much to ask for a little love, a simple smile or two and a smidgen of over due appreciation for a woman who obviously adores you? The answer; I think not!
Jenn you need to become slightly more assertive and stand up to your man loudly and proudly. Its time for the little voice inside you to come out and play and say "hey husband : look at me, look at me!"
You are a remarkable woman with so many beautiful gifts to offer. You go out of your way to please those you love especially the man of you dreams. There is no reason in the world he shouldn't go out of his way to return the favor. I truly believe when he finds out how your heart feels inside that he will man up, step up to the plate and become the home-run husband you have always known he could be. Good luck my beautiful friend.... My heart is with you always.

5 Easy Ways to Get Him to Notice YOU

Why is it that when a girl is interested in a guy she suddenly starts to make rookie mistakes all over again? Women are understandably creatures of habit but honey....if it didn't work the first ten times chances are it isn't going to work this time either! Really, men are not all that complex but for some unknown reason when our hearts start to pitter pat our game tends to go flat. Wake up ladies its not rocket science. How many times does a man that you are completely NOT interested in suddenly become very interested in you? It happens all the time because around men you are not interested in you are confident, sassy, sexy and desirable.


So why do so many women become the exact opposite of that when they are around men they are interested in? Honestly I have no answer for you there but what I can tell you is 5 very easy ways to get him to notice and adore you!


1. Do NOT be timid and shy around him!!!


Men are not as sociable as we are. The last thing they want to do is to carry on a conversation with themselves. Be your lovable social self when you are talking to him. Do not think that just because you like him means that you have to wait for him to come talk to you. Go up to him say hello and take it from there. There are about a million things you can talk to him about you just have to do a little homework. Find out what he likes and then do a little research on it. For example if he plays basketball with his buddies one or two nights a week use that as your opening. "Hey I heard you talking about your game the other night. How did you do? Did you guys win? My brother is a big basket ball nut unfortunately for him he's not as good as he'd like to be." (ha ha...you both laugh) ..Now you have a dialect started. You do not have to ask him for his hand in marriage just to talk to him. Now he's noticed you and you didnt wait for him to come to you.


2. Compliment Him


There is nothing more exciting to a man then a woman who actually notices him. Find something that you like about him that day ( preferably shoes, wardrobe, hair) and tell him he looks good. Don't go overboard and make a fool of yourself. You do not want to come on to strong but a simple" hey I like that shirt on you..Its the perfect color for you" Works wonders... you will make him feel good and trust me he will be thinking about you and that compliment all day long.


3. make Eye Contact


At some point during the day let him catch you checking him out. This takes a little finess, after all you dont want to have a blatent staring contest with the man ( thats just creepy). However a little glare, a quick smile then look away. Its a simple tactic but it will get him to notice that you have noticed him. Try not to do this more then twice during the day after all overkill can make you seem like a stalker and we don't want that.


4. Chum it up with your co workers ( or classmates)


Depending on the setting use the people around you to get him to notice you. Have a laugh or two with the guy or girl that sits by him. Again this takes a touch of finess. Over kill can make you look silly. Strike up a conversation with your co workers and let him see just how sassy and interesting you are. If you share a joke with others and they find you fun and intriguing then he just might as well. Let him check you out through someone elses eyes. He will wonder what the fuss is all about and be asking about you in no time.


5. Dress to Impress


Don't just wear the same old same old daily. Fix your hair a little different and slap on a little lipstick. Buy a new outfit that shows off all of your beautiful attributes. Becareful not to dress to provocotively, after all you do not want to attract him for all the wrong reasons. However wear an outfit that makes you look like you, only better. Focus on a figure flattering style, a bright fresh color, ad super cute pumps, and a teeny wiggle in your giddy-up and you are bound to catch a glimps of him checking you out!