5 EASY WAYS TO GET HIM TO NOTICE YOU

Saturday, May 28, 2011


5 Easy Ways to Get Him to Notice YOU

Why is it that when a girl is interested in a guy she suddenly starts to make rookie mistakes all over again? Women are understandably creatures of habit but honey....if it didn't work the first ten times chances are it isn't going to work this time either! Really, men are not all that complex but for some unknown reason when our hearts start to pitter pat our game tends to go flat. Wake up ladies its not rocket science. How many times does a man that you are completely NOT interested in suddenly become very interested in you? It happens all the time because around men you are not interested in you are confident, sassy, sexy and desirable.





So why do so many women become the exact opposite of that when they are around men they are interested in? Honestly I have no answer for you there but what I can tell you is 5 very easy ways to get him to notice and adore you!





1. Do NOT be timid and shy around him!!!





Men are not as sociable as we are. The last thing they want to do is to carry on a conversation with themselves. Be your lovable social self when you are talking to him. Do not think that just because you like him means that you have to wait for him to come talk to you. Go up to him say hello and take it from there. There are about a million things you can talk to him about you just have to do a little homework. Find out what he likes and then do a little research on it. For example if he plays basketball with his buddies one or two nights a week use that as your opening. "Hey I heard you talking about your game the other night. How did you do? Did you guys win? My brother is a big basket ball nut unfortunately for him he's not as good as he'd like to be." (ha ha...you both laugh) ..Now you have a dialect started. You do not have to ask him for his hand in marriage just to talk to him. Now he's noticed you and you didn't wait for him to come to you.





2. Compliment Him

There is nothing more exciting to a man then a woman who actually notices him. Find something that you like about him that day ( preferably shoes, wardrobe, hair) and tell him he looks good. Don't go overboard and make a fool of yourself. You do not want to come on to strong but a simple" hey I like that shirt on you..Its the perfect color for you" Works wonders... you will make him feel good and trust me he will be thinking about you and that compliment all day long.





3. make Eye Contact





At some point during the day let him catch you checking him out. This takes a little finesse, after all you don't want to have a blatant staring contest with the man ( that's just creepy). However a little glare, a quick smile then look away. Its a simple tactic but it will get him to notice that you have noticed him. Try not to do this more then twice during the day after all overkill can make you seem like a stalker and we don't want that.





4. Chum it up with your co workers ( or classmates)





Depending on the setting use the people around you to get him to notice you. Have a laugh or two with the guy or girl that sits by him. Again this takes a touch of finesse. Over kill can make you look silly. Strike up a conversation with your co workers and let him see just how sassy and interesting you are. If you share a joke with others and they find you fun and intriguing then he just might as well. Let him check you out through someone else's eyes. He will wonder what the fuss is all about and be asking about you in no time.





5. Dress to Impress





Don't just wear the same old same old daily. Fix your hair a little different and slap on a little lipstick. Buy a new outfit that shows off all of your beautiful attributes. Be careful not to dress to provocatively, after all you do not want to attract him for all the wrong reasons. However wear an outfit that makes you look like you, only better. Focus on a figure flattering style, a bright fresh color, ad super cute pumps, and a teeny wiggle in your giddy-up and you are bound to catch a glimpse of him checking you out!

Posted by good advice guru at 6:00 PM

THE TOTALLY TACKY TALL TALES OF TAMERA

The OC kitty kats were in full attack mode last night during the Real Housewives of OC reunion show. While looking back at the seasons "meow moments"  the gorgeous girls sat divided Peggy, Vikki and Tamera on one couch with Gretchen and Alexis teaming up on the other. The reunion started out quite calmly giving the impression the girls might continue slightly civil throughout the evening. However tensions with Tamera and Gretchen grew swiftly as accusations were thrown and name calling began. 

In the beginning  the good looking well kept Gretchen appeared to be a gold digger,  dating the rich older man and loving the lavish life-style of an OC princess. As seasons past and time moved on we began to view Gretchen in a new light. Now dating the under-paid Slade who barley has a pot to poop in Gretchen seems to be supporting the two.  Even though she has expressed concerns about the complex child support issues her main man has been handling she still devotes her life to Slade and shows a genuine interest in walking down the isle with him for richer or poorer. Viewers cannot deny that once deemed "greedy" Gretchen she now appears to be looking for love and truly seems  honestly happy with simple dreams for her and Slade. Greedy and Gold digging seems far off the grid for this gorgeous gal. Gretchen seems to be the small town girl who came to the big city and while not looking for it, luckily landed into the lavish lifestyle we'd all learn to love.


Tamera shares a bubble bath with her
new boyfriend Eddie



Gretchen has grown on viewers this season. Showing the "not so greedy" Gretchen made it easy to embrace her and also made it extremely easy to dislike certain other Housewives who didn't seem to share in the viewers new found outlook and love for Gretchen.

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Gretchen and Tamera
Housewives of the OC



Housewives like Tamera seem to spend the majority of the season attempting to make up for the nasty not so nice and negative things she may have said about nearly all the other girls. Tamera claims her bad behavior toward the other housewives was due only to her horrible relationship with Simon and how horrifically hard it was for her during the disastrous divorce. She claimed she was going threw an emotional roller coaster and did admit on occasion throughout the season that she had some damage control to do with the other housewives. What she neglected to do , however was to apologize to any of the other girls. While being there for Vikki when she needed to vent about her demising relationship with Donn, Vikki did say several times how she was still guarded when it came to Tamera. While telling Vikki she"had her back", Vikki wittingly sighed and denied having Tamera's back claiming last year Tamera stuck the knife in and poured salt to the wound after vowing to "have her back".  As viewers waited for the apology, it never seemed to come. Instead Tamera spent countless hours pretending to come to Vikki's rescue, taking her on a much needed vacation while again not apologizing. Then she was there wiping Vikki's tears at her apparent divorce/I'm single/ I'm not going to talk about Donn but all I'm going to do is cry about Donn party. ( so over the top dramatic) Once again, there was no apology. 



Gretchen explains her feelings to Tamera during
Real Housewives of the OC
Reunion Episode

 Tamera said a number of heartless things about Gretchen for the past few seasons as well with no apology. She made alarming accusations about Gretchen sleeping around while her sick husband Jeff was in the hospital dying. She also speaks about Slade and calls him a dead beat dad claiming he doesn't pay his child support. Gretchen tried desperately to explain what is clearly evident to all except Tamera, that Slade is simply not making the same money he was years ago. he is not trying to weasel out of his child support but instead wants it reevaluated to pay what he now can afford. Tamera continues to terrorize them making many mean and downright horrible remarks about the situation sparing no ones feelings and showing no remorse. She neglects to apologize for the comments shes made about Slade or Gretchen and even becomes infuriated with Jeana for apparently showing the same disregard for her as she has shown to Gretchen.

Throughout the season Tamera tells too many tales to count even. She now claims that Simon was abusive towards her and has him arrested for getting allegedly physical with her. Jeana and many others do not believe the story and become vocal about it. Tamera then takes the opportunity at Vikki's party to start trouble with Jeana screaming at her then throwing a drink in her face for all ( including the viewers) to see. She then turns it around ( after we have already seen what happened) and tells this tacky tale of Jeana getting violent with her. She even goes so far as to proclaim herself as an innocent bystander claiming Jeana should not have portrayed such awful behavior at Vikki's party.
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Gretchen or Tamera
Who's side are you on?



 Tamera decides to throw a party inviting Gretchen and the other girls. Gretchen reluctantly agrees to come but still awaits an apology for Tamera's terrible tall tale to the tabloids about her alleged cheating on her deceased ex. Instead Tamera feels because she has invited Gretchen to her party that all should be forgotten and she should not have to apologize. During the reunion Gretchen is poised and classy. She asks Tamera politely why she simply cannot just apologize and admit her behavior was outlandish and inappropriate. Still Tamera refuses the apology and even exclaims Gretchen is being obsessive and needs to get over it and move on. 

Tamera has displayed totally tacky, terrible behavior. She neglects to apologize for the tall tales she tells and truly needs to install a filter system to her dialect. She is hurtful and cruel in her comments and in no way deserves forgiveness from any one of the many she has seemingly set out to hurt. Her relationship with Simon may have been abusive in her eyes while it lasted but if she continues to portray that same abusive behavior towards the other housewives her marriage will not be the only thing ending. She will undoubtedly lose all the friendships she truly needs as well. Wake up Tamera, your tall tales and totally tacky terrible treatment of the others is just simply tasteless!   



5 GREAT EXCUSES TO POLITELY REMOVE YOURSELF FROM AN UNCOMFORTABLE CONVERSATION

There is nothing more aggravating then finding yourself wrapped up in an uncomfortable conversation. Whether they mean to or not, we all have that one fearless friend who for some unknown reason believes that she/he should share every intimate detail about his/her life with practically everyone. Don't get the wrong impression here, there is absolutely nothing wrong with having an outgoing vivacious personality and wanting to work a room now and again. But becoming the bell of the ball to gain the love and attention of those surrounding you and blatantly gushing out your guts for all to see or hear are two very different things indeed. There are some people who simply ooze personality from every pore. With every word they seem to lure you near, waiting with bated breath for what they'll say next. They have the special gift of gab, and not only gab, but seemingly gorgeous gab. They have the ability to speak about and say anything at all and make it sound utterly attractive and sensational. Somehow they know exactly how to keep a curious crowd entertained touching on even the most risque of subjects but without offending or embarrassing anyone in the process.  That being said there is a very thin and ultra fine line between those with the "gift or gorgeous gab" and those without it.
When you find yourself in an awkward and entirely inappropriate conversation with someone you truly love and respect, it poses a serious problem for some to let a friend know that they need to plug up ( so to speak) their diarrhea of the mouth. We are not all like The Real Housewives" and feel comfortable blurting out to our friends that we think they need to stay zip lipped. After all if the person speaking is a friend or even an associate or co worker it seems a bit harsh to silence them abruptly resulting in hurt feelings or wounded friendships. If you have the kind of relationship that allows abruptness and speaking your mind then there really isn't a dilemma. However, if you are like most and want to spare ugliness and hurt feelings then here are a few simple tips on how to handle this extremely unpleasant situation.  
1. If you know the person extremely well and you know for a fact that anything you say won't be taken sensitively then you may politely let the person know that you are uncomfortable discussing subjects such as the unique one being discussed.
2. Politely excuse yourself from the situation. Claim you see an old dear friend you haven't spoken to in years and will promise to catch up with the fascinating story a little later. ( This of course only works in very crowded parties filled with guests not everyone is familiar with.)
3. Politely tell this person you are so very sorry but you must use the little girl/boy(s) room. Ask the person to forgive you for interrupting them but exclaim you just cannot wait another moment to use the powder room. Then vow to them you will be back at a later time to hear the colorful story they were telling. When returning from the powder room try to use a different route to return to where you came from. Avoid using eye contact upon your return and hopefully by that time they will have moved on to someone new.
4. Confess that you have a very important project or "special situation" that needs your undivided immediate attention. Excuse yourself politely and claim you'll be available another time to continue the conversation. (Of course at this point you need to flee as quickly as possible)
5. Quickly peer down at your phone. Claim that you have felt it vibrating. Cheerfully say "Hello" and begin a nonchalant "How are you,so glad you called me back!" Then politely excuse yourself and tell your chit chatty guest that you must take this call at that very moment. Then promise you will continue listening to the stimulating story at a later date. 
(Quick tip) If you are faking a phone call remember 2 very important items: 1. Make sure to have your phone on VIBRATE so it does not ring during your "fake phone call" and 2. Keep in mind the conversation is a phony one. Be careful not to OVER act so you avoid an even more uncomfortable outcome for all.

ADVICE FOR AMY

Wednesday, May 25, 2011


ADVICE FOR AMY

AMY'S QUESTION:



I am in my 3rd years of college. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months now. We have a great time together and we get along really well. Lately though, he has been getting really mad at me when I want to hang out with my friends. He says I spend to much time with them and he feel excluded. We go out at least 2 times a week and we see each other everyday because we go to the same school. I like him a lot and really don't want to lose him. What should I do?



RESPONSE TO AMY:



College is one of the most exciting times of your life. After college the "real world" takes charge and the fun times are put on a back burner for a while. As a junior I imagine you are buried in books and up to your ears in work. Blowing off some steam and letting loose with your gal pals should be a welcoming release from the perpetual pressures of turn papers and rigorous research. The close mates you make in college tend to stick around even after you graduate and soon become life-long chums. If your boyfriend is irritated by them after only 6 months you can count on his irritation growing even more as time moves on. Having a great guy who you get along well with certainly ads a little skip to your giddy-up and boosts the self confidence. But, if he's always on your case about the fun times you want to share with your friends he may not be the "great guy" you think he is.





You should bring the matter to his attention and let him know his issues with your "time management" are in fact just that ..his issues. You spend your days working hard trying to earn your education. You have given him at the very least 2 nights during the week and make it a point to see him daily. At this point there really isn't any more you can offer up. He may just surprise you, apologize for his immature insecurities and beg you to forget he said anything at all. However, if he continues to criticize you and this arrangement isn't working for him then perhaps you two crazy kids just aren't the perfectly paired couple you thought you were. Trust me sweety this guy isn't the chosen messiah of men. There are plenty of "tools" in the shed and the sharpest ones don't sweat the nuts and bolts. Good Luck Amy.

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ADVICE FOR JENN

Jenn is a great friend of mine who has a husband who is a control freak. Jenn is the epitome of lovely , intelligent, and sweet as chocolate pie. She is the kind of person who goes out of her way to help a friend and goes even further to please her family.
While being a mother and wife some may thing she sits at home and eats bon bons all day living off her husbands money. This couldn't be further from the truth. She spends countless hours cleaning and organizing the house so when her husband comes home there's not a crumb on the floor nor a speck of dust on the furniture. She browses cookbooks and Internet cooking sites daily to find practically perfect dishes to prepare for dinner and regularly prepares a decadent dessert with her extra extraordinary meals to delight her husbands unique and well fed taste buds. Ladies, I do not lie when I say this woman puts Donna Reed to shame and makes Mrs Brady look like the Octo mom.
That being said, the unfortunate part is that her husband seems unfazed and surprisingly unimpressed with her continuous efforts to please him. He rarely compliments her creative cooking attempts and often boasts fun at them leaving her feeling embarrassed and utterly unappreciated. Yet even though she never seems to get the raving reaction she's so yearning  for she continues cooking and cleaning hoping next time he will give her the love affection and proper praise she so clearly deserves.

My humble advice to you my dearest friend is to please tell this man exactly how you feel. I would never give the advice to anyone to walk out of a marriage based solely on the fact that one partner is under appreciated. Make no mistake there is no abuse going on here and Jenn's husband does provide plentifully for himself and his beautiful family. However is it really that much to ask for a little love, a simple smile or two and a smidgen of over due appreciation for a woman who obviously adores you? The answer; I think not!
Jenn you need to become slightly more assertive and stand up to your man loudly and proudly. Its time for the little voice inside you to come out and play and say "hey husband : look at me, look at me!"
You are a remarkable woman with so many beautiful gifts to offer. You go out of your way to please those you love especially the man of you dreams. There is no reason in the world he shouldn't go out of his way to return the favor. I truly believe when he finds out how your heart feels inside that he will man up, step up to the plate and become the home-run husband you have always known he could be. Good luck my beautiful friend.... My heart is with you always.

Family quarrels, kitty cats and even a SNOOKIE on the Housewives of Jersey

"Oh what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive!" Monday nights "real Housewives of New Jersey did not disappoint. Drama surrounded the lovely Melissa as she stuck to her super-fabricated story last evening that Theresa had started the argument and family feud between her and her brother. Melissa vowing she wants "no more yelling and screaming" and wants nothing more then everyone to just get along continued to tell "her side" of the (babies christening turned boxing match) story exclaiming her husband was only jumping to his defence and Theresa should have known better then to speak to him after he'd had a few cocktails. She claimed he just couldn't listen to one more word of her"fakeness" and apparently that Theresa should have seen the warning signs.


Meanwhile Kathy trying desperately to play amends maker quickly jumped to Melissa and Joe (her husbands) defense asking Theresa if she could take her away for just a moment and speak with her during the Posh fashion show. She asked her why she hasn't contacted her brother and mainly placed the blame of the christening drama on Theresa. She Quickly cornered Theresa and threw accusations of Theresa being a negligent mother. But our hot headed Theresa responded swiftly throwing up her hand in Kathy's face and exclaimed "Don't go there Kath" then seconds later shouts"I'm done with you Kath, DONE DONE DONE." Of course an entourage of gossip eager ladies formed around them and the Brownstone hosted Posh fashion show almost turned into the feisty playground of kitty cat antics it did last season loaded with Daniel drama. Fortunately for the ladies (but unfortunately for the viewers) sweet motherly matriarch Caroline rushed in to rescue the reputation of Brownstone and denied anyone the right to fight in her family owned club. She said she didn't care if they duked it out in their own homes but exclaimed to all "Not in Here." The night ended gracefully and all went their separate ways. (Boo Hoo )


On a different note it was Halloween in Jersey and "dress to impress" was undoubtedly the theme. Melissa Vaselined herself into a fitting one-piece kitty-cat pleather number (big surprise there) while her husband Joe thrilled ladies everywhere by decking himself out in a leopard mini dress full out with patent leather pumps and topped off with a big bump-it Snookie wig. HA... LARIOUS! The couple then partied with every ones favorite trouble maker Kim G who stuck to her reputation and stirred the Teresa/Melissa trouble pot by making quick friends with Melissa out of her mutual spite-filled feelings for Theresa. As if partying on Halloween with Joe and Melissa wasn't bad enough Kim G decided to sit with Melissa and her "posse" during the Posh fashion show and actually made snide remarks and child-like funny faces while Theresa was walking the cat-walk. This woman may not be a casted member of the Jersey Housewives but no doubt her nasty willingness to stir up drama gets her an honorable mention.

ADVICE FOR AMY

AMYS QUESTION:

I am in my 3rd years of college. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months now. We have a great time together and we get along really well. Lately though, he has been getting really mad at me when I want to hang out with my friends. He says I spend to much time with them and he feel excluded. We go out at least 2 times a week and we see each other everyday because we go to the same school. I like him a lot and really don't want to lose him. What should I do?

RESPONSE TO AMY:

College is one of the most exciting times of your life. After college the "real world" takes charge and the fun times are put on a back burner for a while. As a junior I imagine you are buried in books and up to your ears in work. Blowing off some steam and letting loose with your gal pals should be a welcoming release from the perpetual pressures of turn papers and rigorous research. The close mates you make in college tend to stick around even after you graduate and soon become life-long chums. If your boyfriend is irritated by them after only 6 months you can count on his irritation growing even more as time moves on. Having a great guy who you get along well with certainly ads a little skip to your giddy-up and boosts the self confidence. But, if he's always on your case about the fun times you want to share with your friends he may not be the "great guy" you think he is.


You should bring the matter to his attention and let him know his issues with your "time management" are in fact just that ..his issues. You spend your days working hard trying to earn your education. You have given him at the very least 2 nights during the week and make it a point to see him daily. At this point there really isn't any more you can offer up. He may just surprise you, apologize for his immature insecurities and beg you to forget he said anything at all. However, if he continues to critisize you and this arrangement isn't working for him then perhaps you two crazy kids just aren't the perfectly paired couple you thought you were. Trust me sweety this guy isn't the chosen massiah of men. There are plenty of "tools" in the shed and the sharpest ones don't sweat the nuts and bolts. Good Luck Amy.

5 Easy Ways to Get Him to Notice YOU

Why is it that when a girl is interested in a guy she suddenly starts to make rookie mistakes all over again? Women are understandably creatures of habit but honey....if it didn't work the first ten times chances are it isn't going to work this time either! Really, men are not all that complex but for some unknown reason when our hearts start to pitter pat our game tends to go flat. Wake up ladies its not rocket science. How many times does a man that you are completely NOT interested in suddenly become very interested in you? It happens all the time because around men you are not interested in you are confident, sassy, sexy and desirable.


So why do so many women become the exact opposite of that when they are around men they are interested in? Honestly I have no answer for you there but what I can tell you is 5 very easy ways to get him to notice and adore you!


1. Do NOT be timid and shy around him!!!


Men are not as sociable as we are. The last thing they want to do is to carry on a conversation with themselves. Be your lovable social self when you are talking to him. Do not think that just because you like him means that you have to wait for him to come talk to you. Go up to him say hello and take it from there. There are about a million things you can talk to him about you just have to do a little homework. Find out what he likes and then do a little research on it. For example if he plays basketball with his buddies one or two nights a week use that as your opening. "Hey I heard you talking about your game the other night. How did you do? Did you guys win? My brother is a big basket ball nut unfortunately for him he's not as good as he'd like to be." (ha ha...you both laugh) ..Now you have a dialect started. You do not have to ask him for his hand in marriage just to talk to him. Now he's noticed you and you didnt wait for him to come to you.


2. Compliment Him


There is nothing more exciting to a man then a woman who actually notices him. Find something that you like about him that day ( preferably shoes, wardrobe, hair) and tell him he looks good. Don't go overboard and make a fool of yourself. You do not want to come on to strong but a simple" hey I like that shirt on you..Its the perfect color for you" Works wonders... you will make him feel good and trust me he will be thinking about you and that compliment all day long.


3. make Eye Contact


At some point during the day let him catch you checking him out. This takes a little finess, after all you dont want to have a blatent staring contest with the man ( thats just creepy). However a little glare, a quick smile then look away. Its a simple tactic but it will get him to notice that you have noticed him. Try not to do this more then twice during the day after all overkill can make you seem like a stalker and we don't want that.


4. Chum it up with your co workers ( or classmates)


Depending on the setting use the people around you to get him to notice you. Have a laugh or two with the guy or girl that sits by him. Again this takes a touch of finess. Over kill can make you look silly. Strike up a conversation with your co workers and let him see just how sassy and interesting you are. If you share a joke with others and they find you fun and intriguing then he just might as well. Let him check you out through someone elses eyes. He will wonder what the fuss is all about and be asking about you in no time.


5. Dress to Impress


Don't just wear the same old same old daily. Fix your hair a little different and slap on a little lipstick. Buy a new outfit that shows off all of your beautiful attributes. Becareful not to dress to provocotively, after all you do not want to attract him for all the wrong reasons. However wear an outfit that makes you look like you, only better. Focus on a figure flattering style, a bright fresh color, ad super cute pumps, and a teeny wiggle in your giddy-up and you are bound to catch a glimps of him checking you out!