RHONJ Matriarch: Caroline Manzo

RHONJ Matriarch Caroline Manzo

Reality shows have become increasingly popular over the years. Some are mindless, boring and not worth watching while others are even more entertaining then any Major Network prime time show could ever be. Amongst the top reality show frenzy are the Housewife series. Whether you're a fan of the kitty kats of the OC, the beauties of Beverly Hills, or the glamour girls of Jersey, there's no denying that Reality Housewives have made their mark on reality TV.

One of the favored Jersey housewives is modern matriarch Caroline Manzo. Caroline is a beautiful woman, loving wife, and incredible mother of three. There is no denying that with her big beautiful melt your heart smile and glamour girl good looks she is clearly physically a beauty. However Caroline's true beauty lies skin deep and comes out shining in the love she has for her family.

In a world where most mothers are career girls as well, many say that family comes first but few truly follow the motto. Mrs Manzo makes the "Family First " rule mandatory and her career falls second fiddle. While her children were growing up Caroline stayed home to nurture their needs. She taught them respect, to be well mannered and well behaved. And although Albie and Chris ( Caroline's sons) are now in their twenties and out on their own, as the show has progressed we have seen through the years that the boys still listen and come to Caroline when they need her. Lauren ( Carolines daughter) is still living at home but because of endless encouragement from her mother she is successfully fulfilling her dreams of "making it" as a make-up artist. Caroline allows her children to pick their own dreams, never forcing them into a family business ( owners of the Brownstone in Jersey) or telling them what she thinks they should do. She even once had encouraging words for son, Chris, when he had aspirations of opening a car wash/stripper club. Her only voice of reason to her son was to "make it a car wash/strip club that mama could visit and be proud of." In another episode Albie, her eldest had decided to leave law-school. Instead of showing disappointment and despair for her son  (as many Italian families would have done) she engaged him in a hug, gave him nurturing advice and lent him an ear to listen. She assured him all would be OK then tells him to find a field of work that better would suit him. She clearly encourages her children and offers them the best of her love and attention.

Although she is loving and warm she still wears the pants ( so to speak) when it comes to running the household. Immediately when you watch you realize when this matriarch speaks, all ears still to listen. Lauren puts it best when she said "my mom offers great advice, she can tell you to "F" off and say it with a smile on her face."

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Caroline is #6 out of 11 brothers and sisters, she keeps in touch with her large family and also has a respectful and loving relationship with her longtime husband Albert. She is very vocal about working hard to make her marriage a meaningful marvelous one. They have mutual admiration for one another and both work equally hard to keep the marriage fresh and exciting. In season four Caroline turned down an invite to the popular Posche fashion show due to her dedication to the couples date night. Albert and Caroline take time out every week to spend an alone evening together. It's evident that Albert is clearly in love with his wife. Watch an episode or two and you will no doubt see the love between to the two.

The matriarch gives welcomed advice to her fellow housewives. She has a genuine concern for her friends as well as her family.  The depth of her warmth and her spectacular smile make a meaningful pair, and joined with the sassy side we sometimes get to see certainly make is easy to become a fan of the fabulous Mama Manzo.

Caroline Manzo, the matriarch, is a warm well intentioned woman. She is a loving wife, an amazing mother, and fabulous friend to those she holds dear. To the fans she'll always be a favorite of the "Jersey girls" and one hell of a Housewife. We love Team Caroline!... SNAPs for Caroline Manzo!! 

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ADVICE FOR A FRIEND WITH A BROKEN HEART

We all have heard it a thousand times...Tis better to have Loved and lost then to have never loved at all.
Words so easily said .. and yet so hard to believe. My dear friend whose heart is breaking I can only tell you that time heals all wounds and eventually you will feel better about this broken heart and you truly will learn to love again.

A broken heart or an ended romance can somehow feel like a fate worse then losing a loved one to death. I realize that the hurt seems to be hard right now and feels like it may never pass. Know that at once in every ones lives they have been there too. Be comforted by the knowledge that you are not alone we have all felt a hurt of a broken heart. The best part is that after time passed we all picked ourselves up and decided to make another attempt to find love again. Trust me my friend it is why we live. You feel hurt now but you will again feel the special childlike innocent carefree happy go lucky I'm on top of the world feeling that new love brings to us all.

After a break up the heart needs a little time to heal. It may hurt for a while but you cannot give up and assume this was your only chance to find love. This temporary set back only means that you are destined to find someone even more wonderful and special and perfectly suited to become your other half. Look at it this way my broken hearted friend. When you fell in love for the first time you felt the most alive and happiest you ever felt in your life. When the romance ended you felt broken and hurt. But, When you seek out again and find a lover more suitable for you then even the one you just lost, think how absolutely amazing and fantastic this new love will feel. Trust me when I tell you the saying is so very true. When it is real, you will know it and when you find it you will look back and laugh and feel silly that you even felt hurt at all. True love will find you.  Never give up on that because there is a perfect someone out there for everyone. Trust me your perfect mate is right now looking high and low to find a lover like you. Your mom was spot on, there are plenty of fish in the ocean.You just have to swim through the ocean a little before you come out with the perfect match. Good luck my friend. Promise never to give up on looking for love and promise you will let me know when you find it. I just know you will!

5 EASY WAYS TO GET HIM TO NOTICE YOU

Saturday, May 28, 2011


5 Easy Ways to Get Him to Notice YOU

Why is it that when a girl is interested in a guy she suddenly starts to make rookie mistakes all over again? Women are understandably creatures of habit but honey....if it didn't work the first ten times chances are it isn't going to work this time either! Really, men are not all that complex but for some unknown reason when our hearts start to pitter pat our game tends to go flat. Wake up ladies its not rocket science. How many times does a man that you are completely NOT interested in suddenly become very interested in you? It happens all the time because around men you are not interested in you are confident, sassy, sexy and desirable.





So why do so many women become the exact opposite of that when they are around men they are interested in? Honestly I have no answer for you there but what I can tell you is 5 very easy ways to get him to notice and adore you!





1. Do NOT be timid and shy around him!!!





Men are not as sociable as we are. The last thing they want to do is to carry on a conversation with themselves. Be your lovable social self when you are talking to him. Do not think that just because you like him means that you have to wait for him to come talk to you. Go up to him say hello and take it from there. There are about a million things you can talk to him about you just have to do a little homework. Find out what he likes and then do a little research on it. For example if he plays basketball with his buddies one or two nights a week use that as your opening. "Hey I heard you talking about your game the other night. How did you do? Did you guys win? My brother is a big basket ball nut unfortunately for him he's not as good as he'd like to be." (ha ha...you both laugh) ..Now you have a dialect started. You do not have to ask him for his hand in marriage just to talk to him. Now he's noticed you and you didn't wait for him to come to you.





2. Compliment Him

There is nothing more exciting to a man then a woman who actually notices him. Find something that you like about him that day ( preferably shoes, wardrobe, hair) and tell him he looks good. Don't go overboard and make a fool of yourself. You do not want to come on to strong but a simple" hey I like that shirt on you..Its the perfect color for you" Works wonders... you will make him feel good and trust me he will be thinking about you and that compliment all day long.





3. make Eye Contact





At some point during the day let him catch you checking him out. This takes a little finesse, after all you don't want to have a blatant staring contest with the man ( that's just creepy). However a little glare, a quick smile then look away. Its a simple tactic but it will get him to notice that you have noticed him. Try not to do this more then twice during the day after all overkill can make you seem like a stalker and we don't want that.





4. Chum it up with your co workers ( or classmates)





Depending on the setting use the people around you to get him to notice you. Have a laugh or two with the guy or girl that sits by him. Again this takes a touch of finesse. Over kill can make you look silly. Strike up a conversation with your co workers and let him see just how sassy and interesting you are. If you share a joke with others and they find you fun and intriguing then he just might as well. Let him check you out through someone else's eyes. He will wonder what the fuss is all about and be asking about you in no time.





5. Dress to Impress





Don't just wear the same old same old daily. Fix your hair a little different and slap on a little lipstick. Buy a new outfit that shows off all of your beautiful attributes. Be careful not to dress to provocatively, after all you do not want to attract him for all the wrong reasons. However wear an outfit that makes you look like you, only better. Focus on a figure flattering style, a bright fresh color, ad super cute pumps, and a teeny wiggle in your giddy-up and you are bound to catch a glimpse of him checking you out!

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5 GREAT EXCUSES TO POLITELY REMOVE YOURSELF FROM AN UNCOMFORTABLE CONVERSATION

There is nothing more aggravating then finding yourself wrapped up in an uncomfortable conversation. Whether they mean to or not, we all have that one fearless friend who for some unknown reason believes that she/he should share every intimate detail about his/her life with practically everyone. Don't get the wrong impression here, there is absolutely nothing wrong with having an outgoing vivacious personality and wanting to work a room now and again. But becoming the bell of the ball to gain the love and attention of those surrounding you and blatantly gushing out your guts for all to see or hear are two very different things indeed. There are some people who simply ooze personality from every pore. With every word they seem to lure you near, waiting with bated breath for what they'll say next. They have the special gift of gab, and not only gab, but seemingly gorgeous gab. They have the ability to speak about and say anything at all and make it sound utterly attractive and sensational. Somehow they know exactly how to keep a curious crowd entertained touching on even the most risque of subjects but without offending or embarrassing anyone in the process.  That being said there is a very thin and ultra fine line between those with the "gift or gorgeous gab" and those without it.
When you find yourself in an awkward and entirely inappropriate conversation with someone you truly love and respect, it poses a serious problem for some to let a friend know that they need to plug up ( so to speak) their diarrhea of the mouth. We are not all like The Real Housewives" and feel comfortable blurting out to our friends that we think they need to stay zip lipped. After all if the person speaking is a friend or even an associate or co worker it seems a bit harsh to silence them abruptly resulting in hurt feelings or wounded friendships. If you have the kind of relationship that allows abruptness and speaking your mind then there really isn't a dilemma. However, if you are like most and want to spare ugliness and hurt feelings then here are a few simple tips on how to handle this extremely unpleasant situation.  
1. If you know the person extremely well and you know for a fact that anything you say won't be taken sensitively then you may politely let the person know that you are uncomfortable discussing subjects such as the unique one being discussed.
2. Politely excuse yourself from the situation. Claim you see an old dear friend you haven't spoken to in years and will promise to catch up with the fascinating story a little later. ( This of course only works in very crowded parties filled with guests not everyone is familiar with.)
3. Politely tell this person you are so very sorry but you must use the little girl/boy(s) room. Ask the person to forgive you for interrupting them but exclaim you just cannot wait another moment to use the powder room. Then vow to them you will be back at a later time to hear the colorful story they were telling. When returning from the powder room try to use a different route to return to where you came from. Avoid using eye contact upon your return and hopefully by that time they will have moved on to someone new.
4. Confess that you have a very important project or "special situation" that needs your undivided immediate attention. Excuse yourself politely and claim you'll be available another time to continue the conversation. (Of course at this point you need to flee as quickly as possible)
5. Quickly peer down at your phone. Claim that you have felt it vibrating. Cheerfully say "Hello" and begin a nonchalant "How are you,so glad you called me back!" Then politely excuse yourself and tell your chit chatty guest that you must take this call at that very moment. Then promise you will continue listening to the stimulating story at a later date. 
(Quick tip) If you are faking a phone call remember 2 very important items: 1. Make sure to have your phone on VIBRATE so it does not ring during your "fake phone call" and 2. Keep in mind the conversation is a phony one. Be careful not to OVER act so you avoid an even more uncomfortable outcome for all.

ADVICE FOR EMMA

Emma is a dear friend with a common problem. Emma has 4 lovely children, a wonderful husband and a beautiful home. She is a gorgeous woman both inside and out and has more then most when it comes to the pleasures of life. However, Emma has this one small problem. Its called guilt. Emma is a terrific mother to her 4 children. She cooks she cleans, she makes the beds, does the laundry and cleans up after everyone in the  house.(this is no easy task in her house I might add). Emma takes care of everyone so well in fact, that she has made no time during her very busy fulfilling life for herself.
She constantly states how lucky she is and how she would feel guilty taking a spa day or a day out to spend with just the girls. Emma refuses to take time out just for her.

MY ADVICE FOR EMMA
Emma you are a beautiful woman who deserves the beautiful things you have been given in life. So many of us mothers and wives feel that our jobs of taking care of our families comes with a contract stating we are NOT allowed to take time for ourselves. This cannot be any further from the truth. As a wife and mother it should be made law that you must take time out for you!
There is nothing more important then family but in order to be a warm, wonderful, well intentioned wife and mother it is essential that we learn to take care of ourselves as well as our families. So many women forget who they are when they become wives and mothers. They lose all sense of self-worth and eventually fall into deep depression due to lack of paying attention to themselves. In order to be the perfect wife and mother it is imperative that a woman take care of herself first. We want to teach our children to be self confident and have self worth. That means presenting yourself well groomed and being the very best you can be. This does require, hair styling, massages, make up and regular spa treatments. Our children need to learn from our example that in order to love others we must first love ourselves. Its virtually impossible to love yourself if you are unkempt and not taken care of. There is nothing wrong with spending a little money on things that beautify us and keep us looking our best. Once in a while being treated to a night out and hiring a sitter can only make us appreciate the time we spend with our families more. Getting away for a girls weekend without the hubby and kids will in fact make us well rested rejuvenated an in turn treat our families with more love and attention.
If it is budgeted correctly and planned appropriately taking time out for you and you alone is perfectly acceptable and in fact a perfect necessity to continue being a warm, wonderful well intentioned wife and mother. Let go of the guilt girls and take care of you!

The Real Housewives Of New Jersey



New comer Kathy claims
shes the "peace maker"
Do you agree?

 Ok so this week the kitty cats came back out to play! The housewives of Jersey outdid themselves this week! They were in rare form and seriously showed their Jersey this week!

As you all know I hate reality TV but I do not know what it is about these ladies that I just love!


The Fabulous girls of Jersey
Theresa,Caroline,Jaqueline



I cannot say that I miss Daniel and all her drama...however I do miss the fun friction between her and the other housewives! The back stabbing,hate mails sent and my personal favorite the mob references throughout the show!! HA..larious!!! Seriously you cant write this stuff any better! This week Theresa's sister in law joined the cast. Can I just say HELLO TROUBLEMAKER!! First of all is it me or does she say "Jesus" (and biblically means it) every five minutes? Are we supposed to believe this housewife is a good God baring girl? Are we supposed to believe she only wants peace for her husband and his sister? Um yeah not so much! She blames Theresa's husband Joe for the relationship issues between her husband and Theresa and her husband and her and her husband and his father. Are you getting the picture here? am I the only one who sees the operative word here is her husband. Hes a real Italian mans man full equipped with a huge ego, slicked back hair,tan toned and a BIG anger management issue. Its going to be a good season I can feel it! She is caddy caddy caddy..MEOW!!! But comes across with the sweet as pie (What did I do wrong?) tone in her voice! All the while plotting the fights amongst the family members she doesn't like Theresa,Theresa,Theresa! She came out smelling like a rose this week after she triggered her alcohol infested husband(also Joe) to lash out at his sister ( Theresa) ( big surprise there)! Anyway the 90 minute premier ended on a high note when Joe (our new kitty cats husband) and Joe ( Theresa's husband) brawled on the floor during a child's christening party and it was FABULOUS!!! Class at its most high!! ..Go Jersey Wives Go! ..they are some classy kitties!.Cant wait to tune in next week. Sunday nights are beginning to become very entertaining!!

ADVICE FOR AMY

AMYS QUESTION:

I am in my 3rd years of college. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months now. We have a great time together and we get along really well. Lately though, he has been getting really mad at me when I want to hang out with my friends. He says I spend to much time with them and he feel excluded. We go out at least 2 times a week and we see each other everyday because we go to the same school. I like him a lot and really don't want to lose him. What should I do?

RESPONSE TO AMY:

College is one of the most exciting times of your life. After college the "real world" takes charge and the fun times are put on a back burner for a while. As a junior I imagine you are buried in books and up to your ears in work. Blowing off some steam and letting loose with your gal pals should be a welcoming release from the perpetual pressures of turn papers and rigorous research. The close mates you make in college tend to stick around even after you graduate and soon become life-long chums. If your boyfriend is irritated by them after only 6 months you can count on his irritation growing even more as time moves on. Having a great guy who you get along well with certainly ads a little skip to your giddy-up and boosts the self confidence. But, if he's always on your case about the fun times you want to share with your friends he may not be the "great guy" you think he is.


You should bring the matter to his attention and let him know his issues with your "time management" are in fact just that ..his issues. You spend your days working hard trying to earn your education. You have given him at the very least 2 nights during the week and make it a point to see him daily. At this point there really isn't any more you can offer up. He may just surprise you, apologize for his immature insecurities and beg you to forget he said anything at all. However, if he continues to critisize you and this arrangement isn't working for him then perhaps you two crazy kids just aren't the perfectly paired couple you thought you were. Trust me sweety this guy isn't the chosen massiah of men. There are plenty of "tools" in the shed and the sharpest ones don't sweat the nuts and bolts. Good Luck Amy.

When Do You Know Your In Love?

When do you know that you are in love? If I had even just a nickle for everytime I was asked that one simple question I swear I'd be on a beach in Fiji throwing back fruity drinks with swivel sticks and bathing in my own money. I know it seems like a question that should have a difinitive answer but truthfully it just may possibly be the most difficult question to answer of all time.


The truth of the matter is love is a funny thing and at different stages of our lives it can hit us in a buffet of different ways. The word love has a specific meaning to almost everyone but the way we judge the word love isn't always as black and white as we'd like to believe it is.


For example: The head over heals teenager at the peak of his/her life just recently being introduced to the concept of love sees is far more clearly and definitively then say the conciencious 30 year old who's just finding his/her self and wants to make the right choices about love. For the teenager love is holding hands and pitter patting hearts and roses and flowers and sweetness and gardens. Its so easy to love when your young. You have little in the way of expectations and the slightest notice from the lover you are seeking can easily ignite a frensy of explosive exciting emotions. Love is so innocent at this age and to the beholder ( young and nieve) everything feels like love.


For the 30 year old love is still blissful but is slightly more reserved and definately comes with more expectations. the 30 year old is not only concentrating on bliss but worries about values, emotions, living arrangements, family, children and about a million other factors when falling in love. It is not as cut and dry as the teenage love and more then likely the 30 year old has felt what appeared to be love ( and then loss) many times before and so it becomes different. now.


No matter what age you are however, love will feel like happiness and every day feels like your birthday in the beginning. The new fresh love is the best kind. When even a simple walk in the park feels like you're riding on clouds and the larks and nightengales are singing only for you and your partner. This however fades after time unfortunately and what's left after that is usually how one can measure if it truly is love. Love is being comfortable. Love is being kind. Love is understanding, Love is never complicated its just love. You should never have to work annoyingly hard at love. ( although that is'nt to say there won't be difficult times ahead) Love means compromising even though you may not want to. It means taking chances for someone that you would seldom take for anyone else and trusting like you've never trusted before. Its letting your guard down and just allowing the "true you" to shine through. Its being able to say "I'm sorry" and mean it, even if you haven't done anything wrong.


How do you know when it is real love...I truly believe you can't put it into words. It's what you feel inside and it lasts beyond a lifetime.