ADVICE FOR EMMA

Emma is a dear friend with a common problem. Emma has 4 lovely children, a wonderful husband and a beautiful home. She is a gorgeous woman both inside and out and has more then most when it comes to the pleasures of life. However, Emma has this one small problem. Its called guilt. Emma is a terrific mother to her 4 children. She cooks she cleans, she makes the beds, does the laundry and cleans up after everyone in the  house.(this is no easy task in her house I might add). Emma takes care of everyone so well in fact, that she has made no time during her very busy fulfilling life for herself.
She constantly states how lucky she is and how she would feel guilty taking a spa day or a day out to spend with just the girls. Emma refuses to take time out just for her.

MY ADVICE FOR EMMA
Emma you are a beautiful woman who deserves the beautiful things you have been given in life. So many of us mothers and wives feel that our jobs of taking care of our families comes with a contract stating we are NOT allowed to take time for ourselves. This cannot be any further from the truth. As a wife and mother it should be made law that you must take time out for you!
There is nothing more important then family but in order to be a warm, wonderful, well intentioned wife and mother it is essential that we learn to take care of ourselves as well as our families. So many women forget who they are when they become wives and mothers. They lose all sense of self-worth and eventually fall into deep depression due to lack of paying attention to themselves. In order to be the perfect wife and mother it is imperative that a woman take care of herself first. We want to teach our children to be self confident and have self worth. That means presenting yourself well groomed and being the very best you can be. This does require, hair styling, massages, make up and regular spa treatments. Our children need to learn from our example that in order to love others we must first love ourselves. Its virtually impossible to love yourself if you are unkempt and not taken care of. There is nothing wrong with spending a little money on things that beautify us and keep us looking our best. Once in a while being treated to a night out and hiring a sitter can only make us appreciate the time we spend with our families more. Getting away for a girls weekend without the hubby and kids will in fact make us well rested rejuvenated an in turn treat our families with more love and attention.
If it is budgeted correctly and planned appropriately taking time out for you and you alone is perfectly acceptable and in fact a perfect necessity to continue being a warm, wonderful well intentioned wife and mother. Let go of the guilt girls and take care of you!